Talking to Your Teen About Sex

A few decades back, sex has been a taboo issue. Well, it still is to some culture. At the turn of the century, publications that showcase sex have been shunned by the general public. But now that a very liberal era has taken over, it is inevitable that we at some point have to discuss sex to our children, otherwise, the notion that they will acquire will come from their peers, and we know what happens next. So considering that most parents come from another epoch, some of us might feel a little queasy when chatting about sex to our teens.

Yes sex education has already found its way in the school's curriculum but I assure you, teaching what sex is really all about has to come within the confines of a home. What's more, sex classroom sessions are often done in a clinical manner. Besides, there are questions that teens may be scared to ask in a classroom atmosphere for fear of being teased. Nothing beats sex education in the comforts of a home.

Nevertheless, at home, there are also hurdles that you have to overcome. The feeling of awkwardness is one tough issue to crack. There are things that teens can openly discuss with their friends but would be unwilling to talk it out with the parents. Masturbation is one such topic. So the challenge lies in breaking that barrier. And the opportunities to tactfully break the ice may be rare so once it presents itself, immediately grab the opportunity of opening the topic. For example, try to listen to the lyrics of the songs your teen listens to and for sure you will hear snatches of sex or sexual innuendos from it. Utilize that moment as a jump off point to start a conversation about sex. More often than not, the best way to disarm a teenager is to be honest. Admit that you also feel uncomfortable with the topic of sex but at the same time reinforce the importance of such a conversation. Do not be afraid in being straightforward with topics like oral sex, sexual intercourse, lesbianism, homosexuality, et cetera. Guide them by itemizing the pros and cons. Tell them the dangers of teenage pregnancy and it repercussions. Use them as an example by asking them if they wanted to be a product of unwanted pregnancy.

Whatever your discussions may be, never ever sound as if you are lecturing. And please refrain from scaring them. And most of all, allow them to talk. Know their personal views on the topic. When you know, you have a better grasp of the extent of their knowledge and that is when you would be able to help them better.