It is human nature for everyone to dream. With a dream anyone can establish a goal and have a good chance to accomplish anything they want, but you can't sit around and only be a dreamer.
It takes a combination of brains and hard work to make your dreams come true and you must be careful and not take unreasonable or ignorant chances. This is especially true for teens. Clear thinking and planning for the future is extremely important and it is primarily your responsibility. After-the-fact is too late to prevent problems.
Unfortunately too many teens experience problems because their parents failed to teach them effective sex education and how to avoid problems. However, you must clearly understand that you are still responsible for your own actions. Today most schools try very hard to fill this gap and teach you what your parents may have failed to teach.
The area that causes teens the most drastic problems is the area dealing with sexual issues. Think! How will you feel if you are pushing your baby in a buggy and your friends drive by honking, yelling, and having good teen fun. Most likely you would prefer to be in the car with your friends having fun.
Only you are responsible for not thinking clearly when you agreed to have unprotected sex with your boy friend. After-the-fact is too late!
Some progress has been made in the past few years dealing with teaching teens effective sex education. Unfortunately sex education taught in homes is still too often antiquated and ineffective. For any of you to be taught antiquated and false information because of illogical religious doctrine or because it has been done that way for generations is sad and just plain dumb, mute, voiceless, silent, speechless, mum, wordless, dense, block headed, numskull, thick, useless, and just plain stupid.
Even though this is really insult to injury and a big mistake, too many parents insist on being brain washed with man-made illogical religious doctrine; which can not be blamed on God our Creator. This is why it is so important for you to accept the fact that effective sex education is basically your responsibility. Insist that your teachers and counselors teach you. Discuss sex education with your friends and their parents and educate yourself on the Web. There are millions of results on the Web. Just check for your self by typing in the words effective sex education.
Teen peer pressure is extremely strong. Always think and believe that you are the boss! It is OK to be selfish and want to enjoy your youth years and have good times with friends. It is OK to respect yourself and listen to your heart. You don't owe anyone on earth anything that can harm you, especially sex. It is OK to say to anyone, "No, I'm not ready for sex". It is OK to tell anyone that your goal is not to have sexual intercourse before marriage. No one else is ever responsible for your actions. You are the boss. You owe this to your self. After the fact is just too late.
Do you want to finish high school and perhaps go to college or do you really have a desire to travel and see the world. It is OK to have dreams, but you will likely never fulfill your dreams if you get pregnant. When you act smart your dreams today have a better chance to make tomorrow better.
If your steady date is pressuring you to have sex, begin making changes to reduce the pressure. Date several different people instead of just one. Associate with more friends that also feel it is OK not to have sex. If your date remarks that you owe him sex you can reply that maybe he owes his left hand some baby oil.
Before going on a date consider how your date feels about sex and what might happen. Practice what to say if you are pressured to have sex. Decide before hand just how far you will allow the petting, kissing, and hugging to go.
Understand that older dates likely have more experience, techniques, and tricks to push you over the edge at the moment your passions are the hottest, your sexual desires are strongest, and your resistance is the weakest.
Think ahead and always carry more than one condom and your spermicide back up birth control just in case you do decide to have sexual intercourse. At least be prepared and have the power and clear mind to excuse your self and effectively utilize the spermicide back up and then assure that you properly put the condom on his penis. Never have any naked body contact with your partner before doing this.
Sexual intercourse is likely not the best choice for sexual satisfaction on a date. For sure, there is no excuse for having an unwanted baby. Understand that you are 100% responsible for your body and for preventing pregnancy.
However, if you aren't thinking, date pressure can add to the ignorance of the moment, which can result in a lifetime of misery and guilt. Remember that masturbation is the logical alternative to sexual intercourse and offers the satisfaction of climax without any worry of getting pregnant or catching a STD.
No one can deny that abstinence is the only completely safe sex. A sexual relationship does not have to be part of your teen life style. Even one experience of unsafe sex can be extremely dangerous. Sex will never give you self-esteem or real self-worth, love, commitment, security, friendship or emotional affection. You do, however, take physical and emotional risks when you are sexually involved.
Sex involves feelings (emotions) and thoughts, but it can not fill the gap for good communications. Before considering a sexual relationship, decide if it is emotionally right for you. Sex can be for all the wrong reasons such as:
*To fit in because your friends are sexually active
*To become pregnant for your own selfish reasons
*To prove to some one that you are an adult
*To make another person jealous or envious
*To get attention from friends or parents
*To manipulate a partner into giving you something you want
*To avoid being alone
A growing number of sex education programs that support both abstinence and the use of contraception for sexually active teens have now shown positive effects in delaying first intercourse, improving contraceptive use, and preventing pregnancy or sexually transmitted among teens; according to a report released by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.
Each night before going to sleep pray and ask for guidance.
Gene Hudgens
I feel Christians have a responsibility to help all humans on earth. I enjoy addressing controversial areas that aid in this goal. I'm a male over fifty, retired Army, married, living in Stuttgart, German with my family. My completed manuscripts include: "Effective Sex Ed, The New Millennium's Answer to Earth's Cry for Help"; "Survival...Life 101" and "The Logical Alternative to Sexual Intercourse".